What is hily?
Ever been on a date with someone a bit younger than you? I guess it depends on how old you are and the demographic of your country and region. Let me tell you this, it’s not easy going back to the dating scene after being in a 12-year marriage. People nowadays just don’t have the time to sit and listen to you, understand you and then decide where to go from there. I have 2 kids and apart from the rough custody battles that I had to endure after the split-up, going back to the single-life just seemed very difficult. I knew that I had a lot of baggage but I still wanted to start afresh; connect with another person, once more. Like every other guy of the 21st century, I decided to try my luck at the online medium. It was when I found Hily review here – http://datingcritic.org/apps-review/hily-review/ and something about it just clicked with me. I am writing my own one describing my personal experience with it, along with some of its pros and cons so that when someone considers this website, they can make an informed decision.
I had never done that before, nor did I know much about it, what I knew was that I had to start somewhere. I found many websites since I didn’t really do much research and just typed in the term “dating website” into the search engine. I started looking at the different websites shown to me, and many of them seemed ok-ish, were slick and flashy and it was tough deciding where to go from there. I started reading reviews and then testing some dating apps – like Tinder and OkCupid – that seemed fine; made a couple of free accounts actually. Reviews were quite helpful and looking at the dedicated users who wrote reviews to help others was what motivated me to do the same for hily. Most of the websites were pretty standard I guess and I stayed on them, trying my luck day after day. The good moments were few and far between. By good moments, I mean when I actually found a chat with a woman interesting. I never really could move beyond chatting. Most of them didn’t respond to my messages, which is understandable as these sites are filled with men who might be reckless when sending messages to women.
Very recently, I tried my hand at hily.com. Like every other website, I found it after some mild research and like every other dating website, I made an account on it and tried to get a feel of it. At first look, it seemed like any other online dating website but looking at it closely revealed some interesting things about it.
How to get started with hily.com
I remember when I first created a Facebook account, quite a few years ago now. It seemed complicated to me at that time. Nowadays, the process for creating an account on a social networking websites has a recipe. I have provided that recipe in my own words as follows:
- Provide basic information such as name, birth date, etc.
- Choose username/create password
- Upload avatar and complete profile by adding more information like where you work, etc.
Creating an account on Hily follows the same recipe. You visit hily.com, select the option for creating your future account, and follow the steps the service outlines for you. You could do this from the hily app too if handheld devices are your thing.
You provide your basic information on this page. It is your private information but it would still be visible to other registered users on the website since the essence of any dating website is to get the “real you” out there. I don’t think lying here would benefit you in any way. The next couple of steps deal with your birthdate, zipcode and then finally you are asked to upload a profile picture. From Facebook, I remembered that the profile picture is just your picture that is visible to others when they look at your profile.
But unlike Facebook, uploading a picture of your dog happily chewing on its stuffed toy is not the right way to go.
Hily is a dating website, where the key emphasis is on the word “dating”. No one wants to date your dog (I hope), but they might probably be interested in dating you. And they can only do that if they know the “real you”. Your photo is a good indicator of who you are. You might feel that I am over-explaining this but I have had countless encounters with profiles of women in which they, were in a group of other girls, had uploaded a photo of their favourite musician, had uploaded a photo of their pet and so on. In my opinion, this is not how it should be done.
I would have liked having more fields for entering some more information, like on Facebook, but it seems that the site is still a work in progress and maybe extra fields would be added later on. Don’t quote me on that though. Even with what was available to me, I could start my search for a “datable” person and got positive results sooner than I expected.
Having experienced many other websites, hily seemed a bit more free-flowing than most. The site looks clean and uncluttered for the most part. I would say that the developers took a minimalistic approach with the design of the site. Hily has this “Finder mode” which is where you are shown the profiles of other people near you.
The website uses some technique based on your zip code that you entered that shows people near you. I think that makes it easier to meet people in person. The way you interact with the profiles of other people is through “liking” or “disliking” their profiles. The catch here is that they wouldn’t know if you have liked them or not. The only way you would be able to actually chat with them is if they like your profile back. This is the system of “mutual likes”. Now, on one hand, this system ensures that one cannot recklessly send messages to every profile they come in contact with. This makes it difficult to spam anyone on hily. And I really do appreciate that. But on the flip side, you could go on for days without getting a single mutual like, since the other half of the process is not in your hands. It becomes a “click-and-hope” thing, which is what I experienced in my first few weeks with hily. It’s kind of difficult to be selective in “liking” someone’s profile. You could click on a profile and know about the person, but in my case, there wasn’t really much that would make me “dislike” a person since beggars can’t be choosers (weary laugh). If you do get a “mutual like”, the chat opens up for you and that person and you can head over the “Messages mode” to get started. On the same note, every “event” that takes place, where event could be the “likes” you have given out, the “likes” you have received, the “mutual likes” that you have received etc. can be found in the “Events mode”.
The “Messages mode” works like a regular chat on every other platform. I would say that this is where the date begins. Like in an actual, real-world date, you may not know much about the other person and so you start talking and knowing more about them. Kind of the same principle here, on hily. Once you start messaging each other, you start knowing more about each other and then you decide if an actual date would ever take place. Be smart when you do that though. Dating websites are usually rife with scammers. Be smart and vigilant and do not give out your personal information indiscreetly.
- Intuitive interface
- Responsive support staff
- Matchmaking based on location
- Protection against scammers
- System of “Mutual likes” prevents spamming of one’s inbox
- Additional preferences that make your search specific
- Lacks some additional fields for adding more personal information
- Too few options available when setting your preferences
- System of “Mutual likes” could be a double-edged sword. You could have many lonely days, so to speak.
Hily is one of the many dating websites I have tried so far. It is not a one-stop-shop for all your dating needs but it certainly looks polished, systematic and looks like it’s heading in the right direction. Hily.com is one of my preferred ways of getting back into the dating world. It may or may not be the option you are looking for but this is what this hily review is for. You now have some information regarding this website. Use your best judgement and see if hily is the option for you.